Friday, April 5, 2019

Featuring: Jose

Although I've been talking about a house full of teenagers in the last few posts, I definitely need to highlight one of THE biggest answers to prayer for Bethesda Home for Boys--Jose's story. Jose is most definitely still "part of the home" but is now 21 years old and in a different city enrolled in a 6-12 month rehab program (hence him not being in any of my pictures here). 

I first met Jose back in 2013 when he was 14 years old when he was shorter than me, had a squeaky voice, and scrawny preteen legs. My first impression was he is a kid with a contagious smile, never ending jokes, and laughter. Clearly a natural born leader; other kids didn't hesitate to follow his lead. 

Jose's story is a long one full of so many incredible moments where God intervened in his life, along with terribly heartbreaking choices and moments that are difficult to even think about even years after. I don't have any "favorites" in the house...but if I did, it would be Jose.

When I first met Jose, drawing a heart for me
Jose's home environment is a common one: several siblings all close in age, dad was murdered, and a mom that's trying to get by raising a house full of kids with different dads. Then comes along a stepdad who is mean, doesn't care about the kids that aren't his, and even resorts to extreme abuse you don't think any person is capable of committing against children. Unfortunately, Jose and many of his siblings suffered this extreme abuse which at times gave him reasons to leave, but also came with the deep pain of knowing his younger siblings were still in that environment and he wasn't there to protect them (even if protecting them caused him to suffer more). If you're wondering why child welfare wasn't notified of any of this--they actually were (and currently still are) but foster care here in Honduras is very different than in the States and honestly it's a complicated system.

Jose when I first met him 
Around age 9 Jose started using crack cocaine via the bad influences of older street kids he was around. With this came living on and off the street for varying times and eventually involvement in a low level gang in the city. This meant being the mule for drug deals, stealing from people/businesses, and being a look-out for the gang as well.

Jose has been in and out of Bethesda Home for Boys since 2011. This is due to countless times of running away for drugs and just as often for explosive anger. Running away was the way he knew how to respond to feeling hurt even when it was over something trivial. 

Me & Jose on his way to school 
One of the most powerful stories in Jose's younger years is the time he should've bled to death but didn't. When he was 15, he was in the middle of stealing from a business when the guards of a business next door caught him, put a gun to his stomach, and threatened to kill him. Then, a crack head came by and the guards told him to kill Jose for them. He then pulled him to the ground and started stabbing him all over. He stabbed him 32 times and left him in the middle of an isolated street to bleed out and die. Jose describes that moment as he was laying in a pool of blood, felt hot, and saw flames. He heard a voice that said "Hijo, ven conmigo" (which means 'son, come with me'). When he heard this voice he jumped up, saw an ambulance, and started running towards it. This city is not a place where medical care is readily available (and what is is completely out of pocket), but against all odds there was an ambulance near by and at his moment of feeling like he was dying he was able to run to it for help. It wasn't until later that he realized God had literally spared his life. There is no way Jose should've survived what he did that day. The nurse said that when he exhaled, both blood and air was "leaking out of his wounds" and she thought she saw him breathe his last breathe the same moment the surgeon showed up. He went through extensive open exploratory abdominal surgery (hours of digging around) to make sure all the bleeding had stopped. He left surgery with 32 sutured stab wounds, a massive midline incision, and two chest tubes. The next morning, a nurse from the hospital called Lisa saying a kid was there that gave her this number to call. After a week in the hospital, he came back to Lisa's house to recover and restart again. 

Making bracelets (2017)
Over the years, Jose has had a deep desire to get clean but felt trapped by his addiction. Early on he went 6 months without touching crack or other drugs, but after each relapse the periods of being clean would get shorter and shorter, realizing he needs professional help but wasn't ready yet. Really the only rehab centers that were an option were in big cities (very far away from Balfate) and extremely expensive. Lisa, and the many people who have loved Jose deeply and supported him through all the ups and downs, have been praying for Jose to truly be ready to go through the rehab program and that doors would open for it to be possible along with the funds to make it happen

Fast forward to now...in January he voluntarily entered into a rehab program that's the kind of program we've been praying about for years!!! Not only that, but there is a 6 month commitment required and he wants to do a full year there instead. By the grace of God and for you all financially supporting him, the funds to cover the first 6 months were raised within 24 hours!!!! THANK YOU!! He is finally putting in the painful hard work and getting the help he so desperately needs. Yes, when he's graduated it will still be a transition out of rehab and back into the "real world", but from Lisa's monthly visits it sounds like he is really making progress and taking it very seriously. 

Jose & Lisa at his rehab center
And you know what's even more amazing?! Not even a month after he entered into rehab, two of his younger brothers joined the house: Manuel & Eduar. It's spooky how similar Manuel is to how Jose was at that age with both his goofy joy & deeply rooted anger issues. Thankfully, Lisa has experience with how to navigate this and Jose is very encouraging of him to stay in the home and choose a better life for himself. It's incredible how not only has God answered Lisa's constant prayer for YEARS regarding Jose, but He also brought in two of Jose's siblings under this roof. Now, both Jose & two of his siblings are on the path to have a brighter future and experience the healing God can do in their lives when they were destined for life on the street like so many others. 

If you're interested in financially supporting what Lisa is doing here with these boys, check out her website HERE and there's a paypal link or the snail mail address at the bottom for where to send checks.

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Thursday, March 28, 2019

Generations

I realize since my first trip here in 2012 the audience of who reads these blog posts has changed, and so have the boys I'm writing about. So if you've been following since the beginning, or just now hearing about why I go to Honduras every year, I wanted to take some time to explain the structure of the boys home and why there's new boys now.

Little Isaac running ahead of the group, on our way to the soccer field
Bethesda Home for Boys is a nonprofit Christian foster home for preteen & teenage boys. Most of them DO have parents but for various reasons being raised by those parents is either not possible or not a healthy environment. Some examples of the boys' parent situations: parents are abusive (verbal and/or physical), addicted to drugs and/or alcohol, currently in jail, father has abandoned children from first marriage to start a "new family" with new wife, have escaped to the States and didn't take all their children with them, extremely poor and want their kids to have a better life (and basic education) so okay with someone else taking them in, and one of the most common and very sad examples--mom and/or dad is currently raising several other children and acknowledge they can't raise them all themselves. 

Bible study with Leah
With all that said...it's complicated. The home is a mix of some boys that were placed here through the country's foster care system and others whose parents have agreed with Lisa personally (on a year by year basis) to give her legal permission to raise their child. Sometimes it is the parents who push for their kids to live here--but other times it is the 12 year old boy who realizes his life is going nowhere if he still doesn't know how to read, write, or have any job skills and he himself initiates the process of being part of Lisa's home. So although this home is a safe and loving place for them to grow up and go to school, it is also more than just a roof over their head and a hot meal. Lisa's home is focused on helping kids who WANT to change the path they're on and have a brighter future...but the path to get there is the literal opposite of what they're used to. For most of them, this means going to school for the first time--for example: as a 14 year old boy he will start in 1st grade since that's where his education level is at. This is not that uncommon, since many families have to wait until they can afford school supplies, fees & uniforms (yes even the public school here require them) until they can send their kids to school.

Me & Eduar (with the flowers he gave me)
This also means having structure to their day for the first time. Most kids in this home were used to doing whatever they wanted during the day (whether at home or wandering out in the streets) unsupervised by an adult or being raised by an older sibling instead. When they come into the home, they are now responsible for cleaning their room every day, helping out around the house, participating in afternoon Bible study, respecting each other and problem solving without threats and violence, not just attending school but also doing their homework, respecting and obeying Lisa and myself along with having punishments (grounded from tv, sit in timeout, go to bed early, etc) when they misbehave. Clearly, for a kid who has been allowed to do literally whatever they want with little or no consequences/responsibility...this causes some extreme friction and frustration with trying to live in this type of structured environment. YES, there is a steep learning curve (not just for months...but sometimes years) and tons of grace--but also, we are not holding them hostage here; they are here to change their lives and learn as a choice. So unfortunately, that means most kids run away a few times before they "stick". Although heartbreaking when they leave, it's usually over something trivial and they get so angry they don't know what else to do to cope. For example: "someone used my toy without asking and so I punched him. Then I got in trouble, refused to apologize, was grounded from tv for 2 days and then was SO angry I grabbed a backpack and ran away hitchhiking all the way to La Ceiba (1.5 hrs away)". This may seem crazy, but change is HARD. And when they've been in survival mode their whole childhood, even minimal structure/responsibility/consequences grates against all their instincts. If a kid that was placed via official foster care, then Lisa has a meeting with them and their case worker to problem solve and make sure this house is a good fit for them still. Usually, the boys DO come back home either a day or week later and realize their mistake. 
Walking through cacao fields
Unfortunately, since the last time I was here a year and a half ago in November 2017, all of the "original kids" have either left to try to get into the States, have decided to go back to their families (although the environment hasn't changed), or have chosen to live on/off the street. This reality is so heartbreaking it's hard for me to even write about it since I've loved those boys so deeply and seen incredible growth & maturity in them over the years. *sigh* But what's beautiful about arriving and meeting a whole new home of boys is it feels very nostalgic to my first trip to help Lisa with the original boys...now starting from scratch with these ones. What's incredible is most of these boys are actually younger siblings of the original boys in the home. 
Current crew of boys!
From left to right, starting at top row...
David: 17 yo
Alex: 15 yo
Manuel: 12 yo (Younger brother of original Jose & Melvin)
Derik: 12 yo (Alex's brother)
Isaac: 8 yo (twin to Mateo, younger brother of original Cristian)
Eduar: 11 yo (Also a younger brother of original Jose & Melvin)
Mateo: 8 yo (twin to Isaac,younger brother of original Cristian)

So even though the original crew of boys have scattered, some of their younger siblings are now in the home and being brought up under this roof in a loving, God centered, grace for the growing pains kind of home. And I think that's the most powerful piece that's resonated with me so far this trip--that God is still at work in these families and He never gives up on us. 

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Wednesday, March 27, 2019

Leah & Maria

Hello everyone!! Leah and I made it safe & sound all the way to Balfate, Honduras to see Lisa and the Bethesda Boys after a long weekend enjoying the island of Roatan. As most of you know, Leah and I have been best friends (and roommates) since 2014 and I've been coming to Honduras on average once a year since 2011 helping Lisa with her ministry. So this trip of  Leah coming with me has been a dream of both of ours and it finally happened!!! Here's some pics of our scuba diving adventures over the weekend below:


After a much needed mini vacation full of adventure & relaxation, we made our way out to Balfate which is a little community (in the middle of nowhere) on the coastline of Honduras with the nearest city being La Ceiba about 1.5 hours away. To give you an idea of where Bethesda Home for Boys is at, there is one dirt road that runs along the coastline and connects several small communities. Eventually you pass through Balfate with the beach on your left and see a large gate on your right which is the entrance to the driveway. Once the guards pass you through the gate, it's an extremely steep 1 kilometer long driveway up the side of wild jungle--monkeys, snakes and all. The road is dirt/rocks with several areas of pavers and cement securing the areas that used to washout into a mud pit during rainy season (shout out to everyone who donated to that project!!) Here is the incredible view from the top of the driveway:

View from the driveway
Leah was here with me for 1 week, which flew by WAY faster than we even thought it would. She went back to the States two days ago and we are already missing her joy & laughter she brings to the house. The timing of mine & Leah's week here together was truly amazing as far as having extra hands on deck...because the kids had school cancelled for 2 days last week which meant an unforeseen 4 day weekend for all 7 boys with tons of energy! So our goal for those 4 days was to keep them out of the house and as active as possible, giving Lisa a quiet home to catch up on things & uninterrupted time running errands. After doing morning chores, homework, lunch & Bible study, we took them somewhere fun nearby every day. One day it was down to the beach (hike down the driveway from the house, cross the only street that goes through town, and boom you're at the beach...so amazing!), another was walking an hour to their favorite soccer field which we ended up having all to ourselves (yay!), and for an extra special treat we drove out to Rio Coco which is a beautiful river you hike into with huge boulders to jump off of, swimming holes, and entertainment of just being boys outside and swimming for hours.
Mateo, Me, Manuel
Jumping into the swimming hole
Feeling like I'm in Jungle Book
For Leah's last day we walked around the property to explore & show her all the different crops that Bethesda Home for Boys is growing: plantains, beans, pineapple, bananas, cacao, sugar cane, oranges, limes, corn, avocados, and several different small fruits I don't know what they're called in English. When we were down by the creek that crosses the property, we heard some rustling in the trees above us and were so excited to see two baby "white faced" monkeys playing in the trees above us!! The howler monkeys (Click here to see/hear what they're like...) are all around the house in the jungle and we see them pretty often, but it was a treat to see the little white faced monkeys so up close on Leah's last day. Then we went and played at the beach until dinner time.
The best group photo we could manage....
After evening Bible study, Leah & I sorted through the suitcases of clothes donations I brought with me and picked out a soccer outfit to give each boy. As both a reward for everyone doing a good job not fighting or disobeying (too much) that day and to also celebrate Leah's last night with us, each kid got a jersey/dri fit shirt, soccer shorts or sweat pants, and a pair of soccer socks. The boys were SO excited that they went and tried on their new outfit to show everyone how awesome they looked in it...which of course led to their version of a photo shoot/ strut around looking cool.
Group photo!
Mateo, Leah, Derik
David & Isaac
I can't wait to blog more & share more specific things that are happening in the boys' lives (and mine!) while I'm here...so I'll be posting whenever I have an hour or two of peace and quiet at the house! Hah. Thank you again to everyone who has donated clothes & shoes, financially supported, prayed for, and reached out to encourage Lisa and myself with this ministry. If you're interested in financially supporting what Lisa is doing here with these boys, check out her website HERE and there's a paypal link or the snail mail address at the bottom for where to send checks.
Eduar
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Friday, December 8, 2017

Home safe, but Honduras in crisis

If you knew me growing up, I used to call myself a "planner". But since 2013, through both life and several trips to Honduras, I still consider myself a planner...but one who's learned that things don't usually go as planned, and God has much better plans than I do anyway.

Rewind to a week ago, last Wednesday night...I had changed all my flights to leave the next day last minute, but then a few hours later found out I would not be able to leave the country due to the violence quickly escalating. See blog post HERE to catch up on that. I changed my flights back to Tuesday 12/5, but knew I'd probably be changing those tickets too. I spent the next day, Thursday, unpacking some of my stuff and trying to grapple with the reality that I better get comfortable--because I'm at least spending the holidays there with the boys...if not a few months longer (and had no idea when/how I was going to break that news to my parents). But at the same time, I had to be ready to leave the country at any moment if/when God came through with a miracle way for me to leave.

Me, Morro & Jeremias

But if you're having a hard time keeping up with what in the world is going on in Honduras or missed the last blog post, here's the most accurate article I've seen (in English) that depicts what's really going on in this country in crisis. You can read the article below or check it out HERE

This article was written by Mary Anastasia O'Grady for The Wall Street Journal.
**I do not own or claim any rights to the highlighted text below. All highlighted portions are quotes from The Wall Street Journal.**
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"Hillary Clinton’s favorite Central American was back in the news this week, as Honduras painstakingly counted ballots in front of international observers and tried to discern, with utmost transparency, the winner of the Nov. 26 presidential election.
Amid the tension, left-wing candidate Salvador Nasralla cried fraud and called for an uprising. Soon, like a bad centavo, pro-Chávez Honduran former President Manuel Zelaya turned up in the midst of one angry mob. 
Recall that in 2009 Mr. Zelaya was kicked out of the country, with the support of his own party, for violating the constitution. Mrs. Clinton, who was then secretary of state, tried and failed to force Honduras to take Mr. Zelaya back. Last week he was seen again, wearing his signature cowboy hat and leading a bunch of hooligans trying to break into the warehouse where the electoral authorities had stored ballots and tally sheets from around the country for counting. The raid did not succeed, but the incident captured the spirit of Zelaya-Nasralla politics.
Mr. Nasralla, a former game-show host, ran against incumbent center-right President Juan Orlando Hernández. By Friday it looked like Mr. Hernández had narrowly won. Mr. Nasralla seemed sure of it too. That’s when he announced that his supporters would stay in the streets for years in protest unless he was declared the winner. With no concession, the uncertainty dragged on.
Mr. Nasralla insists he was robbed. Never mind that this election had greater scrutiny by international observers than any contest in the region in recent memory. Or that Mr. Nasralla’s “Alliance of Opposition” had equal access to the tallying process. The Zelaya-Nasralla movement is using its phony cheating claim to justify a torrent of violence. 

Welcome to Central America, where even after Venezuela has succumbed to famine, the left remains committed to the tactics that brought the country to misery. The process is simple: win one election, then consolidate power and never leave. The strategy has been successful in Nicaragua, where Sandinista Daniel Ortega has been in power since 2007. He is as corrupt as any caudillo and has handily put an end to political pluralism, competitive elections, transparency and institutional independence. 
El Salvador may soon suffer the same fate. Former leftist guerrillas of the FMLN party, who are also allies of Venezuela, have governed since 2009. The party moderated its image to get to power, but last week the party secretary announced that its goal is to end capitalism—including the right of private property.
In Guatemala a United Nations prosecutor, who is in the country ostensibly to root out corruption, has teamed up with the local leftists to try to unseat a center-right president. The prosecutor has so far been unsuccessful, but he has generated dangerous instability. In Honduras, socialist hopes were on Mr. Nasralla, which is why his followers are taking his loss so badly. 
Polls had widely anticipated that Mr. Hernández would win re-election, as the Economist wrote on Nov. 25. Yet the earliest returns, released on Nov. 27, showed Mr. Nasralla in the lead. Officials cautioned that with less than 60% of the vote counted it was too soon to declare a winner. 
When the electoral tribunal did not give the victory to Mr. Nasralla immediately, he called for rebellion. His supporters have blocked highways with burning piles of debris, destroyed cars, trashed storefronts, set highway tollbooths ablaze, and rampaged through the residential neighborhoods where electoral authorities live. On Friday a nighttime curfew was imposed for 10 days. Mr. Nasralla’s supporters flouted it.
The violence is well-organized, raising suspicions of outside help. Exiled Venezuelan political science professor José Vicente Carrasquero warned in a video of Venezuelan “elements” seeking to undermine the integrity of Honduran institutions. 
That Mr. Hernández was behind in the early count was surprising but explainable. In the capital there were reports that thugs “instructed” neighbors not to vote. Most of his backing came from outside the big cities. Both sides had agreed before the election that the physical tally sheets had to be reviewed in Tegucigalpa. It took longer to get them from rural areas.
Another charge is that Mr. Hernández is an ally of the U.S. and has been allowed to steal the election. But that doesn’t add up either.
Observer teams from the Organization of American States and the European Union played a key oversight role. On Tuesday the European mission criticized the tribunal’s failure to communicate at regular intervals with the public. Yet it also noted that all parties had representatives on hand to monitor the process.
Midweek, the two candidates came together to sign a document pledging that they would each respect the final outcome. Within hours Mr. Nasralla backtracked, alleging that he had been tricked. Hondurans speculated that the reversal came about because Mr. Zelaya did not approve. In other words, Hillary’s old friend is the one calling the shots.”
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So, how that effects Lisa, the boys, and myself was we were safe--but isolated. Yes, we were thankful to not be in the thick of the chaos in large cities or even the violence prevalent in other rural areas. But the road going to/from Balfate was blocked by armed rioters, burning tires, chopped down trees, etc and most people were not allowed to pass through. Police and military at this point were not interfering and if they were they were unsuccessful. Balfate is a small community essentially in the middle of no where, in the jungle, on the coast of Honduras. Our area was relatively calm with no riots or violence, but the nearest small city that had food, etc was Jutiapa that was 1 hour away and an hour further past that was La Ceiba where there's a bigger grocery selection and a bank as well. This is important because every little "mom and pop" store out in Balfate is... a) dependent on trucks that drive through once a week to re-stock them with rice, beans, etc and b) are 'cash only' stores. So, in order to buy anything in Balfate you need cash. The small gas station is the only place that even has a credit card reader.

As we prepared to lay low, the news from around the country became worse by the hour. It had escalated to the point of people looting stores, burning down buildings, several deaths and thousands of injuries, and areas literally referred to as "war zones". The government announced a nation wide curfew from 6pm to 6am for at least the next 10 days. 
Because leaving Balfate were not an option, we started to take inventory of what food and supplies we had in the house and how much cash as well. We had 2,000 lempiras (roughly a little under $100) and, if eaten in small portions, enough food for 2 weeks to feed everyone. 

Salvador Nasralla and Mel Zelaya publicly called supporters to violence and said "if you have an AK 47 get it ready", continuing with announcing they will not stop this chaos until the 'rightful party' is in office. They threatened this will not go on for weeks or months, but YEARS until their party was in office. Locals and friends from around the country started to acknowledge this was getting closer and closer to a civil war. Later on this past weekend, the questionable votes were re-counted and in the end Juan Orlando Hernandez had more votes. Despite the numbers showing JOH had won, the head of TSE (in charge of overseeing the results) put out a statement explaining he refuses to announce a presidential winner until a more thorough investigation can be performed. So, Honduras has two candidates who are claiming they are president, but I'm assuming JOH still is technically in power..? Not sure how that works though. 

We prayed again.

I then told God that I know He has called me to Honduras and to help Lisa raise these young men, but I lay that in His hands. I also put my job back in the States in His hands. My plans for the winter and spring in His hands. But in letting go of what tomorrow may or may not hold, along with the months to come, I also continued to ask for a miracle for me to get back home before this became any more dangerous to be stuck here. 

A few hours later we heard that a helicopter had landed on the soccer field down the street and picked up two gringos. I knew politicians were being helicoptered out (since they were major targets of violence) but hadn't thought of that for myself. If I can't drive to the airport...I guess I could helicopter into the airport to catch my plane back to the States..?! I never thought I'd be calling around to different helicopter companies and getting quotes from them to get me out of the country. Or, that they would be booked full for the next two days and I would be able to leave Sunday at the earliest. Oh! And that on average it's $2,000/hour total flight time for renting the helicopter, so about $5,000 by the time it picked me up and took me to either San Pedro or Roatan to catch my international flight. Acknowledging that I was not in immediate danger but was still stranded in Honduras and originally was supposed to be back home the next week, I decided the helicopter idea was ridiculously expensive and I would either wait for another option to become available or wait out the political chaos. And if it became too dangerous for me to stay then, yes--I would book a helicopter pick up. 

While calling around for helicopter quotes, we heard that a missionary family from the hospital nearby was paying a local to drive them on his boat to the ferry dock in La Ceiba, take the ferry over to the island Roatan, have friends on the island drive them to the airport, and then fly from Roatan into Houston on Saturday. Saturday as in the next day. I quickly double checked there were still seats available on the flight out of Roatan, double checked the ferry company wasn't shut down yet, asked myself if this plan was crazy, prayed...and then realized THIS was my miracle. This was my window of time to GET OUT before it got worse and before there were no more options to leave for quite some time. I called my parents and told them I was flying back to the States the next day & how I was getting there. Let's just say they weren't exactly stoked on the idea of me fleeing the country with friends of a friend and a local guy with a boat I'd never met before...but when I reminded them of what the reality was of me staying here unless I do this, they joined me in prayer that this plan would play out smoothly.

I rebooked my tickets for the third time (shout out to United Airlines that understood this was due to political chaos and didn't charge me anything for all these changes!!), told the boys again that I was leaving the next day, and re-packed my bags.

I woke up early the next morning and Lisa drove me, Jeremias, and Morro half way down the property since part of the road was being repaired and cars couldn't drive through it. Morro and Jeremias carried my luggage down the rest of the mountain and I followed behind in my polka dot rain boots and backpack. 


Hiking down to the shore
We hiked down to the beach where the other family met us and up pulled the smallest boat I have ever seen brave the open ocean. Needless to say, it was an adventure of a ride and after the two hour long boat ride we all showed up to the dock drenched from head to toe; arms sore from holding on tightly so we didn't bounce out of the boat. I would compare it to holding on to a bucking bronco for 2 hours but with ocean waves splashing you at the same time haha. What was amazing was about half way through that boat ride, we saw a double rainbow. Not only that, but we saw the FULL arch of a double rainbow from one end stretching to another--and we drove right under it. So incredible to be reminded of God's faithfulness even in the midst of a roaring ocean. We made it to the dock safely, then hopped on the ferry to Roatan where I proceeded to vomit almost the entire 2 hour boat ride despite taking both dramamine and zofran. There, our missionary friends picked us up and took us to the Roatan airport. As we were leaving the ferry, people were saying the airport had shut down but we continued on and prayed it was just a rumor. PRAISE GOD it was just a rumor and although the airport was total chaos with everyone trying to leave the island, we were able to catch our flight and get to Houston safely. 


Leaving Balfate to catch the ferry!

While in Roatan, I heard that all other airports were closed so I messaged Lisa to let her know. She admitted to me they've actually been closed since the night before but she didn't want to tell me in case it influenced my decision to risk flying out the next day if Roatan was also closed by then. She said she wanted me to go, trusting God would get me out of the country, but if I got to Roatan and the airport was closed...she knew me being stuck over there would be safer and I would have more access to food than back in Balfate. WOW. I was both thankful and amazed that she would encourage me to leave for Roatan, potentially for my last window of opportunity for a while, knowing that there was a chance I would get stuck--but that it would be safer for me there than in Balfate. 

Now that I've had a few days to sleep and recover from this both physically and emotionally exhausting weekend, I don't want to dismiss the reality of what's still going on THERE although I'm back here safe. I'm writing this all in past tense only because I'm no longer there with them. This is very much still their reality along with everyone else across the nation of Honduras. Currently, Lisa and the boys are still isolated and rationing out food for two meals a day and into very small portions for the next few weeks. The boys will help provide food by fishing in the ocean and harvesting oranges and plantains off the farm. Check out the interview Lisa did with her mission board HERE to hear their situation and plan described in her own words. 

If you're still reading this, then I know you're really invested in what is going on in Honduras and Bethesda Home for Boys' situation. So what can you do to help!? First things first, pray for a MIRACLE to sweep the nation of Honduras. Pray for peace to rule in everyone's hearts and for violence and rebellion to cease. Pray for patience and hope to be instilled in the hearts of people grieving loved ones they've lost, worrying about their country's future, and where they will find food for the next day.
And although Lisa doesn't have access to a bank yet, you can support her financially so she can pay all of her farm workers and continue to run the boys' home.
Their Paypal is bethesdahomeforboys@gmail.com or you can send in a check to:
18397 West Lake Drive Saucier, MS 39574

Thank you to everyone who prayed for me, encouraged me, and checked in on me this whole journey but especially when I was trying to come home. There are so many people still there, both locals and visitors, who want to leave but they literally cannot. All the credit for my "escape home" goes to God--just when I was settling in to live there a few more months, He came through with a complicated but protected plan to get me home safely.

**Update from Lisa late yesterday

"Woke up at 3:30am in order to attempt going into town. It was raining. Our own road is closed and being worked on so I was not looking forward to walking down our steep hills in the rain. The rain stopped when it was time for us to head out. The road is still blocked in Jutiapa but two people had told me they are letting vehicles pass 3 times a day and for only one hour. So, we were able to literally go to two different groceries and the bank and come back. On the most dangerous part of road on the way back....a police car was driving in front of us. In awe of how God takes care of us. Not a lot of food to be found. We have enough rice and beans for 20 days, and meat for 5 meals. I was able to pay my workers today for their last weeks wages. Blessed and extremely happy by God's provision and safety. Thank you to each of you who are praying. Oh...as soon as we got to our property and lugged our food purchases uphill....it started raining. He's in ALL the details" -Lisa Bradley 12/6/17.

Thursday, November 30, 2017

Urgent update / Coming home

Hola everyone! If you've been following my trip on social media or this blog, you know that I'm here during the presidential election. Well, things have not gone the way they did last time I was here for the presidential election and my friends here have literally never seen it this bad during their lifetime. My flight was originally scheduled to leave Tuesday December 5th which was a week and a half after results of the vote were supposed to be announced. Long story short, the process of having the election results has taken much longer than expected and they still have not announced who the new president will be. The votes are taking so long to be processed because this is a third world country--the voting system is not electronic. Physical ballots had to be driven into the capital from every rural area across the country to be processed. There is increasing political unrest and chaos, which started mostly in areas near the capital and has continued to spread nation wide. Yesterday afternoon I made the last minute decision to fly out this morning November 30th just in case the riots did start spreading & blocking the highways I would need to drive on to reach the airport, so I could get home before this happened. It was incredibly emotional to be leaving the boys 5 days early especially since I woke up that morning thinking it was another normal day during my trip. Literally deciding to fly out of the country only 12 hours from then, I was a hot mess crying and quickly cleaning, packing everything, etc. That night I gave the boys some of the donations I was saving for a "goodbye gift", we enjoyed our unexpected last night together, and they prayed over me and my trip.

"Last night" with the boys!
After saying good night and attempting to take a decent group photo when everyone was exhausted from the day, we checked the news one more time before going to bed & saw that the political extremists got to the airport before I did. They were (and still are) burning tires, garbage, putting large trees across the road, etc. This means now there are rioters & burning tires blocking all roads leading to every airport in the country and all along the main highway--which for many areas is the only road connecting to another town or city. Now unable to leave the country the next day (today), I changed my ticket back to my original date for Tuesday in hopes that the military will be able to get the roads cleared of chaos and under control over the weekend.  

Below is a photo of the bridge leading to the La Ceiba airport. This is the airport I need to get to in order to fly into San Pedro Sula (larger airport) to fly out to Houston. 

Bridge to La Ceiba airport 
Only road accessing La Ceiba airport
I'm writing you this, because if this continues to escalate (especially after election results are announced hopefully tonight or tomorrow) this may go on for weeks. I am hoping and praying the police & military can get this under control as soon as possible, but locals are saying they expect increasing violence and potentially war to break out. At first I was hoping that was an exaggeration, but I just read an article interviewing someone in another part of the country that said the same thing & stating he is ready to go to war if Juan Orlando wins the election. So, I will not be leaving the country until the airports are accessible obviously, and wanted to reach out and keep you in the loop ahead of time and while we still have electricity & wifi, since some areas do not. Please do not worry about me, we are staying safe and hunkering down here until it's safe to be on the roads. What I DO need is LOTS of prayer that the government will swoop in and quickly control and dissolve the riots that have become violent and those that are blocking main roads & isolating people from getting to the bank, grocery stores, airports, etc. Rural areas like where we live will eventually run out of food if delivery trucks are unable to drive through to resupply the small stores out here for a few weeks.

Large tree blocking area of main throughfare in Honduras

Here is an example of a "calm" riot that's happening near us: Riot video

It's the worst in Honduras' capital--Tegucigalpa. Where we are at, currently the chaos is mostly on roads and bridges. Unfortunately, it is not that way for Tegus. Below is a picture of a historic building being burned down by rioters.


Historic building in Tegucigalpa

Although the boys are taking this seriously, they're also saying stuff like "Aww yay! I guess Marie can't leave now! hahaha Guess she'll have to stay here another month! Yay!!" Which, at this rate, could actually happen unless there are some major moves made by the police & military. Please pray over the weekend the country would be blanketed in peace and people in power would know how to navigate this "powder keg" of a situation. 

Also, in the midst of all this, Roatan (one of Honduras' islands) is flooding and the rain is starting to pick up more on the mainland too. It's no where near flooding here on the mainland, but praying that this weekend God would bring an insane amount of rain that would make it impossible for people to burn things and dissuade them from rioting in the streets as well. 

Praising God that we found out about the roads to La Ceiba before we tried to make the trip there. Trusting Him that He will make a way for me to get home soon. Thank you to everyone who is praying for us and has checked in on us. I will continue to keep you updated with any changes when possible. 

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Graduation celebration!


Yesterday Kevin and Ebert graduated the 6th grade. This is different than it is in the States--here they have grade school from grades kindergarten through 6th, and then high school is 7th-12th. Depending on what the student wants to do as a profession, sometimes only 2 years of high school is required. For example, to go to nursing school you only need 3 years of high school & then you can go to nursing school. Here, if a child even attends school that is a success for the child and their family. But for a child to finish school through 6th grade is the same level of success & accomplishment as a student in the States graduating high school. So, needless to say, yesterday was a big deal and I am SO proud of these two young men!!! Kevin & Ebert will both continue in their studies by going on to high school later this winter when the school year starts up again.

Kevin & Ebert ready to graduate!
Although many graduate's parents come to the graduation ceremony, each student has to pick a madrina or padrino to be there to support and represent them as well. A madrina is kind of like a godparent, except it doesn't necessarily involve any guardianship if the parents were to die, etc. It's mostly someone the child & parents pick to be there for all major life events: graduations, weddings, baptisms, etc. Generally it's an aunt, uncle, cousin, or close family friend. Ebert asked me to be his madrina and it wasn't until later on when talking with Lisa about it more that I realized how much of an honor & privilege it was for me to be his madrina. I have known him since he was a tiny little 11 year old with a squeaky voice, and now he's growing up to be a young man who is fighting to succeed in school and honor God with his life. Although he was a little nervous to walk up in front of everyone (he had to go up twice because he also graduated with some of the best grades in his class) he looked so proud to be graduating! Lisa and myself and very proud of both Kevin & Ebert and excited for them to continue on to high school! 

Ebert picking a flower for me in 2013
Ebert graduating 6th grade 2017
To paint a picture of how the graduation ceremony went...we were told it started at 2pm. So, we showed up around 2:20 thinking no one shows up on time anyway. Well, even 2:20 was WAY too early with only one other student there. Around 3:30 or so everyone was there & the graduation finally started. Similar to the States, several teachers & school directors gave long winded speeches and kids and adults alike were already hot, tired, and wanting to go home! Haha. Pretty sure I've never met anyone that genuinely liked graduations. Celebrating graduation? Yes. The actual ceremony? No. Mind you, we are outside in the middle of the afternoon and it is HOT. Each graduate walks down the aisle and is seated in their section, then everyone stands for the national anthem which Ebert directed. Then, they pair up and do a dance to a traditional song, and then a few select students do a group dance to another song. More speeches are given. 

Traditional dance
Next, each graduate and their madrina/padrino were called up to accept their diploma with them. Then, the graduates and their madrina/padrino all went to the front and danced together. Of course Ebert was totally embarrassed to be dancing with me in front of everyone--but even though we were literally just stepping back and forth to the music, he did muscle up the courage to spin me at the very end of the song. :) After the ceremony, we picked up some coke to have with dinner and I gave them their graduation presents: a new Adidas soccer jersey & new soccer socks. Shout out to everyone who donated so I can make days like these special for them! Later this weekend or next week Lisa plans on taking us all out on an adventure to celebrate them graduating.

Kevin & his madrina, Fide

Familia
Now that graduation is over, it is a big thing checked off our list! This weekend is election weekend (which I'll write about in next post) and then the boys continue to be on vacation from school until February. Every day we continue to work on finishing the house, run errands, harvest & sell crops from the farm, etc and the list never ends. Please pray the rain will hold off (it started back up again this morning) and we can finish some of these major projects that are made much more difficult when it is raining and muddy. We are still in need of funding for the electricity project to be finished, along with a kitchen & laundry area to be built. Please pray for provision & if you want to donate check out bethesdahomeforboys.org or use their paypal directly at bethesdahomeforboys@gmail.com

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

2 little monkeys jumping on the bed...

My mom left yesterday morning at 4:30am to La Ceiba to start her long day of travel. After 22 hours of traveling, she made it safely back to Oregon! Thank you to everyone who prayed for her to get there safely. Her last night here mom and Melvin made 2 cakes for everyone to enjoy & then we went to bed early since we had an early morning the next day. Ps. YES we found a gluten free cake mix at a grocery store in La Ceiba last week!!!! So amazing.

Mom's last night!
Mom and Melvin making cakes

As you may notice, in the group picture we have two little ones here now too! Britani and Cindy are two little girls that live in a squatter community/garbage dump near La Ceiba. Lisa has been helping nurse Britani back to health since she was 2, and when she first met her she looked like a malnourished 9 month old. She was incredibly skinny, blonde hair falling out (yellow from malnutrition), and hadn't learned to talk or walk yet. Through the past year of taking her in whenever she was sick and helping her recover from various parasites, sicknesses, wounds, etc she's now 3 years old and a little chatter box who runs around to keep up with her older sister who is 5.

Cindy & Britani
These girls' mother is in her teens and has 3 girls all under the age of five. She is working in another part of the country for 2 weeks and could only take her youngest girl with her, along with her 6 year old sister she's raising because their mother abandoned her. This means Britani and sister Cindy were essentially left to take care of themselves. Technically their uncle was "taking care" of them, but that means he's off doing whatever for most of the day and the girls wander around one of the most dangerous parts of the city unsupervised. They are left alone, hungry, and very easy targets for several tragic things including: getting lost, kidnapped, sexually assaulted, or sold into sex slavery. I wish I was exaggerating with how dangerous it is for children to be left unattended. Unfortunately, this is very common for parents to have several young children and for them to essentially raise themselves. Many of these kids in extreme poverty situations survive & grow up...but their childhood is stunted and often full of various traumas, and the mindset of "survival" is perpetuated into the cycle of just living to make it to tomorrow. The mindset of surviving until tomorrow is dangerous and damaging because it often leads to doing whatever it takes for your own survival, and then thinking of your children's wellbeing. Although the stories are heartbreaking and the statistics overwhelming, Lisa and the boys (and myself included!) love to take care of these girls when we can. Even though it is quite an undertaking to have two small little girls in a house full of teenage boys, God uses them to bring a new type of joy and giggles into the home, while He uses us to provide them with a clean home & access to medical care while enjoying a safe, nurturing home even if just for a little while. These two cuties will be here for two weeks (and so will I!) and we would love your prayers for God to use us to the full capacity to enrich their lives while we have them under our roof.

I realized I didn't post much about all the various sports and games we played while my mom was here! During our afternoons at the beach we found coconuts, branches of trees, etc and the boys cut them with machetes to be used as baseball bats & balls. We also taught the boys kickball in the backyard, which of course, included a lot of mud and sliding everywhere.


Mom & Melvin playing baseball
We have been so blessed & spoiled with a few hot sunny days the past few days, which is very unusual during rainy season, and we have been making the most of them! We've been to the beach or river as much as possible in the afternoon after everyone's chores & work on the property is done. A few days ago we went to a river over in Lis Lis about 15 minutes away from the house. The river was much deeper than it has been in the past due to heavy rain fall this season, and the current very fast in some parts. The boys are used to swimming across the river to hike along the other side to the hot springs, but I completely forgot to warn my mom about having to cross the deep river!
Me and the boys crossing the river
Everyone did pretty good walking / swimming across the river & mom and I managed to not drop our phones in the water as we carried everything over our heads. But, if you read my mom's facebook post from that day, you know that our littlest boy gave us quite a scare. Cristian was crossing at the shallowest part of the river and was carrying two very full bags or oranges with him. He lost his footing and the current swept him away and he was struggling to keep his head above water, not letting go of the heavy bags of oranges either. Thankfully, I was not too far away and was able to toss my backpack off and jump in after him, grab him and the two bags he wasn't letting go of and swim all of us to shore. Even for me it would've been difficult swimming across the current by myself without trying to save him. A few seconds later and both him & I would've been in trouble. A little shook up from Cristian nearly drowning, we recovered and crossed the river at a different spot. When we found calmer water my mom gave Cristian a 30 minutes swim lesson. He is one of the fastest learners I have ever seen! Here's my mom's post from facebook: "Yesterday I witnessed my daughter save a life. My little bear cub decided to cross a swift and deep area in the river to play downstream where the older boys were. He was carrying 2 bags of oranges and various things. He lost his footing and the current started to sweep him away. Marie ran to the shore and jumped in and was able to struggle against the current and the bags he was refusing to let go of and save him. So, I decided to talk him into a swimming lesson in a calm area of the river by promising to show him how to swim like a frog. He has been my fastest learner so far. Within 30 minutes he learned to float, crawlstroke and modified breaststroke. He was very proud. So was I. Marie had a safety talk with them when we came home. I felt very emotional and very proud of Marie." 

We are thankful everyone was able to have fun at the river and enjoy it safely after the initial scare. It was also a great opportunity to remind the boys how dangerous the rivers and ocean can be, especially since many local people have died drowning here, both children and adults alike. Shout out to my mom for being an awesome swim instructor!

Mom and Cristian
Day at the river
Today two of the boys graduate the 6th grade! Graduating 6th grade here is the same level of importance as kids graduating high school in the States. Another blog post to come later this week about graduation!